06-23-2020, 02:11 PMBDonini Wrote:

06-23-2020, 01:57 PMスウェグキング Wrote: Well i mean, we can agree to disagree, i know there are several other people who also think that it's fucked up to say "stfu twink" because it is a term for a young-looking gay man, and telling someone to shut up and adress them as such makes it look like it's an attack, even if it's said in a playful way like it was now(which nobody who doesn't know that they are friends would). I've definitely heard people use twink as an insult on multiple occasions and had to look the word up when i was younger, so i guess maybe i'm just being influenced by real life events.

And i didn't imply that you were ranking, i was saying that i kind of did and i don't like doing it. And i wouldn't say its "easy to see", as i wrote earlier i know several people mentioning it being a bad look. But you do you.

hey bud, just because one or two gay friends on this website are okay with using twink that way doesn't mean we should condone using it that way. There's more than 2 people in this community and a hell of a lot more than that in the places we are recruiting. We have to consider how this language can be construed.

We can draw the line before or after twink and that's fine, but this argument in and of itself is infuriatingly illogical. It's the epitome of "boys club" behavior. I'm part of plenty of communities that are okay with using slurs we've outlawed here for the same exact reasons you've said twink is just fine. The result is that insensitive language is encouraged and thrives, to the point where people feel unwelcome.

As for me, if one thinks HR would have a talk with one for something one says in the SHL, then I'd consider it off limits.