09-23-2020, 03:54 PMSlashACM Wrote:

09-23-2020, 03:35 PMgrok Wrote: Look man I can put this in a nicer way because I don't actually know you, I just know the front you put up. But when your entire persona is being a trash talker to everyone, you will get that reputation. And when you carry that persona into talking shit on rookies who have no idea who you are and doing things in the league that get you in trouble, that reputation will snowball. Joe in this very thread said that part of the decision was because it's hard to get FAs to NOLA because of your reputation.

And it would be so easy to just own that the heckling hasn't always been in good fun and try to make inroads with the people who don't like you. But instead your response here was "woe is me, me me me." No acknowledgement of anything in your public attitude, just claiming you paid your dues and somehow deserve respect.

I'm sure I'm not the only person in SHL who would be willing to give you a second chance if you ever showed even a single public moment of apology, a sign that you've changed or that you're different in the LR and that the heckling is all in fun. But I have never seen that from you.

I know you'll probably look at this and either copypasta it with your friends or say "lol ok" but I've seen how your friends here stick up for you, and I wish the person they know was the person the site knows. I think the person they talk about would have gotten signed the day FA opened.

I'm not really in a good headspace to come up with a proper response to this but the SHL as a whole is full of cliques. It's a result of the team atmosphere mixed with the anonymity of the internet, people are gonna shit talk. People don't like WBF for a similar decorum to mine, but would people be happy to see him waste away in FA after all his hard work? If I have personally irked you I'm sorry, but to paint me as some LR demon that no one wants to be near is just detracting from the actual conversation of cap, roster size, and position changing.

And don't think I don't understand that I've been unpleasant to some people here. I know. But many GMs here have said they know me more personally than the site goes and would give me a shot if my price didn't shoot up to 6 mil. I'm sorry you don't see pity in my situation but if you're coming in here and shitting on me for your perceived slight, are you any better than I?

took me a bit to think about how to reply to this.

first off, i'll straight up own and apologize being a shithead earlier. i know that it's a shitty feeling to have nowhere to go during the top of your game and that your player is important to you (and an investment of your time!) and it was fucked up of me to just roll in and be a cock about the whole thing. i'm sorry my immediate response was destructive instead of constructive.

second, i definitely get that there's a subculture of assholery around here that certain people participate in more than others. finn absolutely participates in it, and you two are far from the only ones. that said i 100% would act exactly this way to finn. if finn was sitting in FA completely of his own design i'd probably be having the same conversation with him as i am with you. in fact, i have had exactly that conversation with finn regarding his applications to SMJHL HO. i've specifically talked to him about how his antagonistic attitude towards the people making the HO hiring decisions will hurt his chances whether he has the best application or not. i've specifically yelled at him because he always applies without changing his attitude then has the same woe is me schtick when he doesn't get selected. big picture, the whole constant trashtalking, my way or the highway, big man attitude is something i think is actively bad for this community and something i've worked with individuals on breaking down and changing. so i promise you that my last message wasn't intended to say "hey here's the way you suck," it was meant to deconstruct the specific parts of that subculture that i've seen you participate in. i know you aren't alone, and i know i would think about other people in this situation the same way.

third, i'm not trying to paint you as an LR demon, i'm trying to tell you how i perceive your image around the league. i'm just a dude and you can ignore me if you want, but i'm not the one in this thread calling you an FA repellent--your own prior GM is. if i was in a bubble and you were in FA, and you told me you wanted to come to my team, i'd absolutely talk it out and give you a second chance. i'm sure i'm not alone here, and i'm sure some of the people who share my opinion are other GMs with the cap space to take a real look who you haven't spoken to. but part of that conversation would be the humility and awareness to talk about the hard stuff.

fourth, yeah the cap situation is shitty. i've been doomsaying for months that there will be a cap crisis by S58 preseason. it sucks that it's happening to you and it'll suck again next season when it impacts even more players. imo i think it sucks that you're the only one stuck in it because it's 100% going to blow up on a bunch of actives over the next two seasons.

finally, i don't think it's possible to have the cap/roster construction conversation without also having a image conversation. i know some GMs will move mountains to sign The Guy for their locker room. i've been in those war rooms and had those discussions. the cap and the number of active goalies in the league mean that your LR presence will matter to many GMs when they're deciding how to spend their increasingly limited cap. sure the cap matters, but i think it's shortsighted to pretend it's the only reason you're in FA right now.

i don't think there's much more for me to say than this so i'll bow out from here, but my DMs are open if you ever wanna really talk about anything. i know you probably won't take me up on it but i'm there if you need an outside opinion.