See that is where you went wrong on the prompt, you never talk about the SHL. Remember the first rule of the SHL. You just don't talk about it. There is no way out and no one would believe you. Your live would be in shambles if you ever said it out loud. My wife at first didn't like the concept either, but she gave it a shot and did enjoy it in the end. But we really do not talk about it anymore :p